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Why?

If you’re a parent, I’m sure you remember the why stage your child went through. Why Although while you are entertaining this stage it may feel a bit daunting, it’s a stage I realize years later (yep, with age comes wisdom – thank goodness for that!) should not be discouraged but rather embraced.  Understanding why things happen, why we do certain things or just why something is, is really creation at it’s finest.  Our greatest inventions and creations came because someone had a ‘why’, a purpose, an inspiration, a passion.  It’s what really sets doers apart from non-doers.  It’s what is responsible for every form of transportation we have, every style of communication, every everything.  Have you ever wondered why – of course you have and today, we just google it.  Call me old school but I still love to read pamphlets, booklets, maps, etc when I travel.  I love the digital formats available (thank goodness for Rick Steve’s tours downloaded to my phone) and digital maps but there’s something quietly comfortable to review a paper map and read a pamphlet or booklet to learn why and how something came to be.

Just returning from a 3 week holiday where we visited 4 different countries, I took away some very simple observations and at the same time, I learned so much because I continue to ask why.  I’m always intrigued by why and how things were created.  After all, every creation started with a thought.

Let’s take Venice, Italy for one example – the floating city (or as some refer to it – the sinking city).  Venice canal_dress shopMy first visit there – I arrived not really knowing what to expect.  Loading our luggage onto the water taxi, I found myself questioning what this experience would bring – I’ve been challenged by motion sickness many times in my life but with my studies this past year, I knew I had control over my thoughts.  I immediately sat back and started creating positive experience thoughts.  45 minutes later as we disembarked the boat, I had just experienced a most amazingly beautiful ride into this incredible city amass with stories.  I found myself researching why and how this truly unique floating city came to be.   In reading and at the same time, watching so many people I care about embark on their first MKE journey, a light bulb went off.  I knew I would come home from vacation refocused on my thoughts to creating the next chapter of my personal movie.  What will your movie look like? movies-clipart-silhouette-1

 

 

If someone can create a city with no cars built on a swamp, castles like Windsor Castle that stand for almost 1000 years, scale beaches and cliffs like those in Normandy while being attacked, 747s that actually lift off and fly across the world or something as magnificent as Stonehenge – what stops you from creating something?   IMG_1189

The power of thought sets us apart from other species.  My observation is the more digital we get, the less people think.  WHAT?!?  We become so conditioned by what is fed to us that our brains begin to relax.  I know, you’re probably thinking right now – my brain is surely not relaxed and this woman is crazy!  Our brains are on overload from things that clutter it – things that stop us from taking moments of time to sit in GREAT thought.  We have so much more potential than most of us use.  What is the life you desire?  Does it look any different than what you have now?  Those who get what they want in life, work hard but as we can learn from great scholars and athletes alike, it is not all in physical performance but rather in mind, in thoughts, in attitude.

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Will you join me on this focused thoughtfulness journey?  Let’s go down this path together.  Together, we can encourage and support one another to become more.  We have so much potential.  Let’s tap into it.  As Napoleon Hill tells us in his best selling book “THINK and grow rich”, not “DO and grow rich”.  Are you ready to take your game up a notch?  If so, join me on this journey to become all we can be.

 

MKE Week 21

Don’t Fear the Fear

I listen to the lesson.  Overindulgence, taking on too much means…

I question myself.  As I always do.  It’s something I started doing many years ago – my post game report – reflection after a meeting, an event, anything I do – asking myself

  1. What went well?
  2. What could I have done better?

And my newly added question of recent weeks –

  1. What would the person I intend to become do next?

I could start analyzing my past 5 months, questioning so many things, but I’ve learned to embrace life one day at a time.  I am a much more relaxed person that way.  After all, I cannot relive the errors of yesterday and right them, correct?  Yesterday is buried forever.  I am good with that.  Where I struggle is to live this day as if it is my last.  I understand the concept but it is difficult to not focus on the future, the goals, the plans, and the preparations.  I listened to this lesson with just one week to go before our older son was to exchange his vows with his beautiful bride.  Just 3 months after our younger son did the same.  I found it hard to treat each of those days last week as my last.  I guess I was being somewhat greedy but I had GREAT joy in preparing those last minute details for what would be one of the biggest days of his life.  And I would be lying if I said I wasn’t looking forward towards the events.  I do try to live each day to its fullest and spill not a drop.  Some days I’m not so good at it.  But I do know this.  Each day I am given, I fall to my knees and give thanks.

Christian Woman Sitting Down in Prayer Silhouette

So, back to that lesson.

Learning to use fear, anger, guilt, unworthiness, and hurt feelings as tools to propel myself forward to take action.  My first thought is one of – I’ve already accomplished turning these things into tools.  But within, right at that moment, I felt irritated.  Hmmmm….I question myself, WHY do I feel irritated?  So, it’s reflection time.  Let’s get vulnerable.  WOW!  Hard for my private self to share this with all who choose to read this.

Brought up in a world where ‘there is no sense in complaining because no one really cares about your problems’.  Pretty true words and I have found this to provide me well in most situations but here I am taking this course because I want to grow and get better at guiding others in their journey, so although I live by ‘life is not an Oprah Winfrey glassofchampagneshow’ (where people walk around sharing their ‘private’ problems with the world) I feel myself bubbling like a newly poured glass of champagne.  Letting my bubbles breathe….I know they are beginning to burst, developing the best version, the best tasting glass, of myself.

So here goes…

My childhood was laden with fear.  It strangled me.  I feared bridges and traveling (because of bridges and the possibility of a flat tire and being stranded), so much that my family went on vacation without me on numerous occasions.  I did not have hurt feelings because of this.  I was relieved.   My fears were self created.  They ran deep and turned into much larger fears as I grew – weekly dreams of carrying this heavy, heavy globe on my shoulders….but long story short, I worked very hard to overcome my fears in my teenage years and beyond.  Diving into my inner world in my 20s and 30s was life changing to me.  Liberating to say the least!  I am so grateful to be free of those shackles!  Those life changing experiences have assisted me in growing into the butterfly I have become.

So….what did the irritation mean?  Through my sits, I knew on some level I was still struggling with some of these emotions.

This consciousness of power within.  water pumpThoughts poured in like the water pump had been primed – GUSH!  I started to see how certain emotions have held me back in business.  My ideas began to grow larger.

As I watched this almost fairytale wedding unfold before my eyes one week ago today, with so much joy of two families together, the sparkle in almost everyone’s eyes and the strength of so many years of marriage in that room I found myself asking

what would the person I intend to become do next?

Stay tuned.  Although I will continue to live each day to its fullest because my last must be my best– living instead of just existing – I will also continue to create large thoughts, plan and take action because my dash is my legacy.  Blessed and highly favored I am.  Thankful.

 

MKE Week 20

The Underdogs Who WIN

Everybody loves an underdog.  Super Bowl LII was living proof.  While dedicated Patriot fans were obviously rooting for their team, the rest of the country seemed to be decorated in green instead of red, white and blue. Super Bowl LII

Could it be what Mark discusses all the time?  We love to hear and watch a good Hero’s Journey – stepping from the known into the unknown, the hero who has finally made it.  The Philadelphia Eagles are no stranger to the playoffs over the past 25 years, yet this was their first Super Bowl victory in the history of the franchise.  The celebration parade brought together record numbers of fans and supporters.  It was an inspiring story of a franchise that had struggled to make it to the pinnacle, Super Bowl Champs, time after time.  It seems we do love to hear the story of the struggle turned success, the metamorphosis of the caterpillar into butterfly.  monarch-zanastardust

Watching this event unfold, I couldn’t help but think of the hero’s journeys being played out in our 2018 MKEMMA class.  The hero’s journeys visible in our business.  The people we can reach out to and the people we can inspire through our own actions.  WE must succeed so that others can believe they can achieve!  Someone is watching you – more than the Facebook world, Google world – someone.  Yes, someone who needs you to succeed because it will inspire them to do more, be more and go after their own hero’s journey.

As we become better observers through our studies, lessons, and applications, we can now begin to turn old feelings of guilt, unworthiness, anger, hurt and fear into the very things that catapult us to success.  As I listened to last week’s lesson unfold, I began to recognize through observation, how much cement I have chipped off over the past 30 years.  I’ve been to the playoffs many times.  While the playoffs are exhilarating, I know my Super Bowl will take my breath away.  I consciously understand now what Haanel carefully explains in Lesson 20.  20:18 wraps it up beautifully.

20:18 Inspiration is from within.  The Silence is necessary, the senses must be stilled, the muscles relaxed, repose cultivated.  When you have thus come into possession of a sense of poise and power you will be ready to receive the information or inspiration or wisdom which may be necessary for the development of your purpose.

For so many years, I fought the silence.  Afterall, I was outgoing and received my energy by being around large groups of people.  That, of course, was the outside world telling me who I was.  Sitting in silence, slow, deliberate movement like Tai Chi, Chi Kung, yoga – things I felt I had no time for in my busy, outgoing life – have taught me so very much.  ‘The Silence is necessary’! female on mountain

I am grateful I have taken care of my physical body because as I approach 55, I am excited for the second half of my life where wisdom can prevail and I still have the endurance and vitality to live a life of abundance.  A life filled with victories.  A life where I believe in me guiding others in their hero’s journey.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, healthy and happy! 

I am taking steps into the unknown with more trust and confidence and a mastermind team alongside of me.

MKE Week 18

Body & Soul

How often I just sit trying to think about what to blog about.  And then there are the moments where I come up with a thought I want to blog about and life gets in the way and I couldn’t find time to get my thoughts on ‘paper’.  This is one of those times.  Thankful I wrote down my thoughts almost 2 weeks ago because if I had not, I am pretty sure it would’ve been long gone by now following a convention and masterminding with our teams from all around the country, negotiating a sale of a home, training to update my trainer status, a son getting married in less than 2 weeks (only 3 months post our other son’s wedding), both sons moving into new homes in 2 different states, living with my mom for 3 months on top of everyday workouts for my physical body (and sanity!), creating meals from scratch because we deserve to nourish ourselves with the best food we can get our hands on and some sleep thrown in.

Yes, the busy lifestyle I started this course with has taken on a whole new level of busy but, my sits are beginning to bring about incredible thought process.  Even though I have fallen asleep during some of my sits the past few weeks, my due diligence is paying off.  I am learning I need to follow-up my sit with a writing time – a time to get thoughts on paper or those thoughts quickly get lost in the shuffle of the day and POOF – GONE!  It is no longer about the so called requirement of the readings and sit. I WANT my mental exercise to be a part of my day, every day just like physical exercise is.  I love the combination of my physical exercise with feeding my mind.  It’s like the channels just open and things begin to flow.  A beautiful experience for sure!  Now, to just find enough time in my day to follow that up with a jotting down of this flowing stream of ideas.  This is where I need to make a connection.  I know it will come when I can get back to my own personal environment and regular lifestyle.  It excites me – gives me goosies for where I am headed.

I started applying some of the mastermind principles to my business and lifestyle coaching.  Also – simple application in my observation of people.

I’ve been teaching life balance balancefor most of my adult career and it seems to be a most difficult task for most people to exercise both the mind and body on a regular consistent basis.  That brings me to the question –

How often do we look at life as a body with a soul or a soul with a body?

If we work on the omnipotent intelligence as Haanel discusses in 18:8 –

“Every living thing must be sustained by this omnipotent Intelligence, and we find

the difference in individual lives to be largely measured by the degree of this

intelligence, which they manifest. It is greater intelligence that places the animal in

a higher scale of being than the plant, the man higher than the animal, and we find

that this increased intelligence is again indicated by the power of the individual to

control modes of action and thus to consciously adjust himself to his environment.”

it seems everything will naturally just fall into place.  I want to stand on the mountaintop and share this with anyone and everyone but I know that is a turn and burn style that doesn’t create real change.  I’ve tried that with other things in life.  Afterall, when we get excited and stand for something, it gives us that so important sense of purpose.  The beauty of life is the more years our physical body has, the more wisdom we can gain.  I’m grateful to still be learning and that I am always open to learning and growing.  I’ve been involved in many a program that touts ‘mind, body, soul’ mind-body-soul

yet, I see so many who approach life from just one of those dimensions.  I’ve read ‘Think and Grow Rich’ before.  This study, this masterminding, this commitment is exhilarating, life transforming.  I am so grateful to be masterminding with a group of people who are engaged in mental exercise, breaking free of the ‘bondage to the law of their own being’.

18:11. It is the recognition of the self as an individualization of this Universal

Intelligence that enables the individual to control those forms of intelligence which

have not yet reached this level of self-recognition; they do not know that this

Universal Intelligence permeates all things ready to be called into action; they do

not know that it is responsive to every demand, and they are therefore in bondage

to the law of their own being.

This science can change the world!  We can be the change we wish to see.  But as Og reminds us we must live each day as if it is our last!

I will continue to celebrate through the struggles because if it is my last day, it will be my greatest monument. “I will maketh every hour count and each minute I will trade only for something of value…I will live this day as if it is my last.  And if it is not, I shall fall to my knees and give thanks!”

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MKE Week 17HJ

What am I Pretending Not to Know?

The question of the week. 

Hmmmm – I had to really sit and think about this one.

When I first heard this question, my thought was ‘I’m not really one to pretend’.  You see, I’m a pretty straight forward kind of gal but just like with every event in life, I have learned to always reflect on it.  So, with great thought I decided to ‘sit’ on this one.  Pretend

Think.  Think.  Think.

Thought bubble

What came to me?

This is not about pretending to be something I am not.

This is reflection and then it hit me AVOIDANCE!

What am I avoiding in my belief of self???  WOW!  Thoughts start to roll.

 

I finish my sit and pull out Og.

AND….

there it is!

‘I am nature’s greatest miracle.  Vain attempts to imitate others no longer do I make.  Instead, I place my uniqueness on display….I begin now to accent my differences; hide my similarities.’

I begin to realize where all my fears of the years have come from when I have to get up in front of people to do something for the first time.  Real fears – upset stomachs, in some cases 24 hours of unrest prior to, trembling, sweaty palms, cold hands, quivering knees…

I’m pretending I do not know I am unique.  I compare myself to others whom I look up to.  I want to do my best, give my best but I need to remember –

‘None can duplicate my brush strokes, none can make my chisel marks, none can duplicate my handwriting, none can produce my child, and, in truth, none has the ability to sell exactly as I.  Henceforth, I will capitalize on this difference for it is an asset to be promoted to the fullest.’  In fact, ‘I am nature’s greatest miracle’!

I continue to read, to study, to reflect.  Why?  To grow my belief so I too can achieve the things I have dreamed of.  It’s not about just the dreaming.  It’s the thinking through and using this incredible mechanism we were gifted. Pretend_Trust yourself

A return to MK9.  Awareness in repetition makes me smile.

Haanel points out in MK9:15 –

The mechanism is perfect;  it was created by the Master Architect who “doeth all things well,” but unfortunately sometimes the operator is inexperienced or inefficient, but practice and determination will overcome this defect.

 

I continue to grow.  Just like a plant, I am a living thing.

My living cells continue to divide and subdivide.

They are intelligent.  They know what they want and they know how to get it.

My branches are growing.

My buds are ready to bloom.  Another season has begun.  My journey continues.pink_blooming_trees_by_fairiegoodmother

MKE Week 17 – Embrace The Suck

Embrace The Suck

It’s better than the alternative.

As Haanel points out in 17:11 and 17:12 – ‘Momentary enthusiasm is of no value; it is only with unbounded self-confidence that the goal is reached.  The mind may place the ideal a little too high and fall short of the mark;  it may attempt to soar on untrained wings and instead of flying, fall to earth; but that is no reason for not making another attempt.’

On our Mastermind tribe call this week, we discussed that in this journey, life still has situations that we must work through (chipping the cement away) to get the things we so desire.  As we are all getting our focus back after some fragmented weeks over the holidays, we encouraged one another to ‘embrace the suck’.  There is growth in embracing it – recognizing it’s an opportunity for growth, not a place to get stuck.  When going through tough times, I always work hard to remember the alternative could be not being here to even have this opportunity confronting me so embrace it to my best ability, learn from it, get refocused and move along.

Struggle

The BPB, Haanel and Og all point out consistently this development of self-confidence in some form.  Og reminds me ‘I have been given eyes to see and a mind to think and now I know a great secret of life for I perceive, at last, that all my problems, discouragements, and heartaches are, in truth, great opportunities in disguise.’

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Tonight, a friend posted the following which made me reflect how I have applied this to certain areas of my life for a long time but through this journey, I am now applying to my entire life.  I’ll be bringing this to my sits and thought it may help some others break through some of ‘the suck’.

 

A success strategy I have utilized for years…

In life there are consequences to our actions and our in-actions.  The best things in life like great health, a strong marriage, a successful business or financial freedom are all long-term strategies.  So it’s the choices we make on a daily basis that accumulate so slowly that it doesn’t seem like those daily choices seem important!   But I know that they are THE MOST important!

I set up a reward system. I get to take a sauna, watch Netflix, book a spa appointment etc… only AFTER I accomplish XYZ.
Most just indulge no matter what.
This was really important in the beginning when I was building something from nothing while I had a more than full time career. Time was precious!

As an entrepreneur if I don’t do something for my business there is no one to fire me or reprimand me or tell me how much I cost the company so I have to do it myself. I have set up checks and balances so that I do what I need to do and sometimes that means being disciplined enough to dole out my own consequences. Like doing more on other days or not getting the reward and actually sticking to that.

I did the same for my health tonight…
there is nothing I dislike more than working out in the evening, but I was a bit lazy this morning. I did not get up in time to make it to the gym prior to my first appointment.
Easy thing is to say tomorrow…
so I forced myself to go to the gym tonight… I cannot tell you how much I detest doing that but I HAD to dole out a consequence so I would be MORE motivated to get up in the morning!

Important fact:

If I don’t dole out consequences I don’t change my habits and… drum roll please…
I don’t get the results I want!!!!!   drum roll

And I want RESULTS!

It’s one thing to be disciplined to do things…
it’s another to be disciplined when you don’t.

Not where u want to be?
Could this work for you?


I am so disciplined (and have been for years) to get my workouts in for my health and have more times than I can even remember at this point ‘embraced the suck’!  We’ve worked very hard through the years to create a healthy marriage of 32 years and at times had to ‘embrace the suck’ more than ever to get through.  Together, we have both ‘embraced the suck’ to create a successful entrepreneurial lifestyle so that we could walk away from a toxic corporate world and have a life.  In some people’s eyes we have been very successful but because we are nature’s greatest miracles, we possess that burning flame that has been passed from generations uncounted and its heat is a constant irritation to my(our) spirit to become better than I am (we are).

There is pleasure in sharing gifts and for this I know I have a uniqueness for I am nature’s greatest miracle, just as you are!  We are ALL rare and there is value in all rarity, therefore, as Og says, we ARE ALL VALUABLE!

Applying these thoughts, sitting with focused thought, exercising my mind – it is all creating such beautiful opportunity in my life.

Humbled and highly favored.  Grateful.

Cheers to keeping the burning flame! flame

I just returned from a ladies’ auxiliary luncheon with my 85 year old mom and I was so inspired by the 94 year old lady who was a model in the fashion show and the 97 yo woman at our table!  Now that’s keeping the flame burning!!

MKE Week 16 – Environment of My Mind

 

Sixteen weeks into this course…

At times I feel so at peace with everything and the journey I am on and other times I feel frantic wondering how I will get the things on my list finished on time.  Right now is one of the latter moments.

It’s been a challenging week – living in a new environment for the next three months, with my mother, in Florida.  This has included adjusting to having a new housemate, blending schedules, preparing meals to please everyone, living in an active community with neighbors who are all retired and want to chit-chat, etc. In addition to this, we have a son and daughter-in-law who are so excited to be closing on their first home and another son moving this week and getting married in just six weeks with plans and pre-festivities in full gear.  We are also back in the area where many of our business partners are located so it’s been a very busy week of appointments to support others.  I am so grateful we developed a lifestyle that allows us the flexibility to do these things but with so many transitions all at once I’ve had challenges staying focused on all the lessons and getting all my reads and sits in.  After 3 months of very consistent behavior and persistence, although I do not like that I am not getting all the dots connected these past 2 weeks, I also recognized in this ‘Kindness’ week that I needed to be kind to myself.  Balance is so important to me and I have had to realize that it’s okay to embrace these wonderful moments in my life and ‘chill a bit’.

So, deep breath!  On Wednesday, I had to take that deep breath and forgive myself for being imperfeKtly perfeKt!

clear mind

Even though I didn’t get in all my reads and sits, I realized how much the environment of my mind has created new neuropathways for my DMP and my new blueprints.  Flipping cards was my friend!  A new schedule is being created and by next week I’ll be back to my persistent action to getting my lessons accomplished daily.  In the meantime, I haven’t fallen off the track.  No different than I coach my weight loss and health improvement clients, it’s not about being so tightly wound that there is no room for an occasional celebration meal or drink but that we create an awareness through gained knowledge to make good decisions before and after these special celebrations and not get derailed.

So….I am by no means derailed but I do plan to enjoy these special moments in my life that I am blessed to have and keep balance for my own health and sanity.

Balanced me

The cards and recordings will be my best friend these next few months.  I am feeling very thankful I worked very hard the past 3 months to set up these new pathways.  And the future looks bright….plans are formulating in my mind daily, not always in a perfect ‘sit’ but sometimes, while waking up in the morning, sitting in a car as a passenger or when I am working out on the elliptical or stair climber zoned into my world with headphones on and just light background music.  Note to self: do not zone in on my thoughts when running or power walking on a treadmill – I must pay attention so to not veer off the moving belt!!  lol

No different than physical exercise, mental exercise allows us to work very hard to get the results we desire but we can afford to coast at times and not lose all we gained.  I had a coasting kind of week and it is all good because I led with love in my heart and recognized kindnesses all around me and have begun another positive neuropathway forming.  HOO RAH!!!